It’s the Little Things (that encourage a caregiver)

I scanned the envelope for a recognizable address.  The handwriting was not familiar nor the return address.  I tore it open, happy that it was obviously not a bill, like the rest of the mail. I pulled out a short note and a check for $36 fell out.   It seemed… Read more“It’s the Little Things (that encourage a caregiver)”

Why I Struggle to Live a Spacious Life

…continued from yesterday. It has taken me years to learn to ask forgiveness of someone when I have done wrong, so knocking on Sarah’s door took all of my self-discipline and courage. “Come in,” she said. “I am so sorry for the way I spoke to you just now,” I… Read more“Why I Struggle to Live a Spacious Life”

Alzheimer’s Cannot Steal my Father’s Peace

My dad is a brilliant civil engineer who has overseen countless building projects, road construction and city designs and he can’t remember where he lives nor that he built the house in the first place.  My dad is an amazing musician who sings the Lord’s Prayer in a way guaranteed… Read more“Alzheimer’s Cannot Steal my Father’s Peace”

FMF – Green

I’m joining Kate Motaung’s Five Minute Friday and today’s prompt word is Green. Having a sick child is worrying. Going through chemotherapy with a four and then a five year old is anxiety producing. Spending hours in a hospital listening to Dora the Explorer and Bambi is mind numbing. Driving… Read more“FMF – Green”

CNA or a Fairy Godmother to a Caregiver and Patient?

Laura entered Andrew’s room, carefully sanitizing her hands and greeting Andrew with her big friendly smile.  She was a favorite, because each time she entered, she always carried on a cheerful conversation, whether Andrew was well enough to respond or not.  She bustled around wiping sinks and counters, picking up… Read more“CNA or a Fairy Godmother to a Caregiver and Patient?”

Finally Admitting to a Surprising Blessing

I can’t I can’t even I can’t even say it That thing that no mom wants to admit to That every mother sets out to avoid Rules say no Desperate need says yes. Those days during a fight with childhood cancer Where your body bears the imprint of that lovely… Read more“Finally Admitting to a Surprising Blessing”

Dirty Drawers and Caring Colleagues

I sank down in the midst of the piles of neatly folded and partially sorted laundry that was spread around the living room floor and began to cry. Who knew it would come to this?  Me, who’d always been the caregiver, the rescuer, the one to jump in and help. … Read more“Dirty Drawers and Caring Colleagues”

Back in the Nest: A Safe Harbor for a Floundering Fledgeling

…continued from yesterday. “Come home,” Pedro said to Sarah. I grabbed my computer and started looking for one-way flights to San Francisco. God, my ever-faithful travel agent, led me to a flight that would have me in San Francisco by noon that we wouldn’t have to mortgage the house to… Read more“Back in the Nest: A Safe Harbor for a Floundering Fledgeling”

Giving to a Tired Caregiver – Inspire Me Monday

I awoke with a start, staring wildly at the profusion of trees to my left.  My gaze swung right.  More trees.  I sat partway upright and saw trees in front, but then my gaze hit the rearview mirror.  My four-year-old’s head glowed in the sunlight shining through the back window. … Read more“Giving to a Tired Caregiver – Inspire Me Monday”

Celebrate the Victories (no matter the size)

We cannot discount the simplest and most appreciated blessing during any prolonged medical fight!  This (posted above) sort-of-poem-but-mostly-celebratory journal entry was the first time Andrew achieved the status of remission.  It was a chemo induced remission and came after about a month of the fight with leukemia.  That first month… Read more“Celebrate the Victories (no matter the size)”