When Life Feels Sour, Give

Do you ever feel as if your life consists of a hopeless round of rinse and repeat? A tree full of sour lemons? That no one notices the efforts you invest in other people’s lives? I confess to feeling this way a time or two—especially since I’ve invested myself in… Read more“When Life Feels Sour, Give”

Care

I glanced anxiously at the sky as the thunderheads built up and menaced the airspace surrounding the airport.  Pedro HAD to make it on the air ambulance flight.  If he didn’t, I feared the hospital bed awaiting him at the University of California Medical Center in San Francisco (UCSF) would… Read more“Care”

Miserable Comfort

Right before my caregiving journey, I found out that a dear lady and her husband (parents of Pedro’s students) were in the midst of their own cancer journey. He had prostrate cancer—and his health and healing became a matter of daily prayer for me—even during my darkest hours. Even though… Read more“Miserable Comfort”

You Can’t Cure Anyone

Dear Friend, The weight of anxiety over a friend or loved one who needs your care may have pressed the last dredges of flavor from your life. You may find the strangest things make you cry (coffee commercials, for example) at the oddest times (during a staff meeting). You may… Read more“You Can’t Cure Anyone”

A Duet of Hope and Love for Sexual Abuse Victims

While this is primarily a blog about the cancer caregiver’s journey, there are other types of caregiving that millions of people perform day after day, year after year. Some times, caring for another person involves much more than addressing their physical pain, comfort, well being and advocating for a loved… Read more“A Duet of Hope and Love for Sexual Abuse Victims”

Long-Distance Parenting

My cell phone let out an angry buzz that reverberated through the sticky Naugahyde, rousing me from my one-eyed slumber. I grabbed for the phone and checked the time, then the number. Home. Where exactly was I? I punched the green button, took in the IV poles, antiseptic smells and… Read more“Long-Distance Parenting”

She Knows No Boundaries

I’m hooking up with the Five-Minute Friday crowd–five minutes of unedited writing on the prompt cooked up by Lisa Jo Baker and friends. This week, the prompt is ‘She’. Go! She left me speechless. She was supposed to be like a relative, a safe person, someone who had promised to… Read more“She Knows No Boundaries”

Six Ways to Prevent Caregiver Burnout

Cancer Caregiving 101: Take Care of Yourself and Prevent Caregiver Burnout “Now you must realize,” the doctor straightened the papers into the already thick folder as he finished summarizing the diagnosis, treatment protocol and prognosis, “with a best-case scenario, we’re in for a long haul. You two must take care… Read more“Six Ways to Prevent Caregiver Burnout”

Six Tips for Balancing Boundaries (#4 Was the Hardest for Me)

“I could have done that!” my friend grumped as I carried a stack of laundry into Pedro’s hospital room. I cringed inwardly and smiled outwardly. “I didn’t have a lot to wash.” I set the neatly folded and wrapped stack of clean clothes in my suitcase and shoved it into… Read more“Six Tips for Balancing Boundaries (#4 Was the Hardest for Me)”

How to Help a Caregiver at Christmas

A Caregiver at Christmas Feels Double the Stress Contrary to the song, Christmas is NOT “the most wonderful time of the year” for caregivers. It’s that time of year when all the ‘what ifs’ pile up in their brains as they silently mourn Christmases past and what to do in… Read more“How to Help a Caregiver at Christmas”