What You See isn’t Always What You Get

Bent over, so I could see better, my chubby fingers pried the sand dollar from the sucking sand at the ocean’s edge. Suddenly, a wave hit me from behind, pushing my head under water and terrorizing my four-year-old-mind with visions of death. I felt strong arms around me as my… Read more“What You See isn’t Always What You Get”

Laundry (Confessions of a Love-Hate Affair)

Laundry? I hate doing laundry…I think. Pedro and I had a system that worked for twenty-one years of marriage. I did laundry one week, he did laundry the next. Our arrangement sprang from my strong beliefs that a woman’s place was NOT doing all of the quotidian chores if both… Read more“Laundry (Confessions of a Love-Hate Affair)”

Carol’s Five-Minute Friday: She

I’m hooking up with the Five-Minute Friday crowd–five minutes of unedited writing on the prompt cooked up by Lisa Jo Baker and friends. This week, the prompt is ‘She’. Go! She was an angel who seemed to not believe in God. Loud and relaxed and extremely precise. She wore a… Read more“Carol’s Five-Minute Friday: She”

Red is the Color of Transformation

Red is the color of transformation The first bag of donated blood hanging from the IV pole grossed me out. The thought of someone else’s life force and cells rushing through Pedro’s veins seemed both miraculous and messy. Sure, I’d given blood before—the first time as an impulsive act (the… Read more“Red is the Color of Transformation”

Submersion or Submission: Which Will You Choose?

In the fifth part of our series on how caregivers seem to experience the same reactions to circumstances that a drowning person experiences, we explore the options a drowning person has–submersion or submission. “From beginning to end of the Instinctive Drowning Response people’s bodies remain upright in the water, with… Read more“Submersion or Submission: Which Will You Choose?”

Angels and Lifeguards–What a Caregiver Needs

In this third part of our series on Drowning in Plain Sight, we salute those ‘lifeguards’ and ‘guardian angels’ who recognize a caregiver’s silent struggle in the waters of caregiving despair. “Drowning people cannot wave for help. Nature instinctively forces them to extend their arms laterally and press down on… Read more“Angels and Lifeguards–What a Caregiver Needs”

God Answers Prayer With a Spelling Lesson

When Plans Crash My cell phone rang in the middle of a team parent’s meeting at Laura’s gymnastics class. Pedro’s voice sounded worse, but I wasn’t sure if it was because of his facial paralysis or because he really was worse. “I’m back in the hospital.” I breathed deeply and… Read more“God Answers Prayer With a Spelling Lesson”

How to Help a Caregiver at Christmas

A Caregiver at Christmas Feels Double the Stress Contrary to the song, Christmas is NOT “the most wonderful time of the year” for caregivers. It’s that time of year when all the ‘what ifs’ pile up in their brains as they silently mourn Christmases past and what to do in… Read more“How to Help a Caregiver at Christmas”