Living In Between

My daughter will stand in between Pedro and I in exactly nine days and when the pastor asks, “Who gives this woman in marriage?” we will say, “We do!” Meanwhile, in the days that march inexorably towards July 7,  I struggle in between joy, frantic worry that I’ll never finish… Read more“Living In Between”

Show Up!

I just finished giving the Baccalaureate address for my daughter’s graduation. Why am I writing that on a caregiver blog? Because person after person thanked me for being real—for sharing my story, for offering hope and a simple truth. I shared pieces of my life, and pieces of my son’s… Read more“Show Up!”

Remember the Journey Part II: The Rest of the Story

Part II –Let God’s Timing be Perfect for You! It’s true confessions time. Every journey has its tough moments. In Remember the Journey, Part I, you read of my hesitation to take pictures; my anxiety that my boy was not going to make it, and my irrational fear that I… Read more“Remember the Journey Part II: The Rest of the Story”

Fatherly Filter

  Me without You is like coffee brewed without a filter, bitter, dark and full of nasty surprises Their words, fall on me unfiltered; like coffee, burning hot, black bitter and full of nasty surprises. Filter their words. Let me hear the good intentions lost in the brewing process of… Read more“Fatherly Filter”

Screaming (Five Tips for NOT Screaming When You Really Feel Like it!)

“Get out of my way!” I screamed at the driver who cut me off. “Where could you possibly have to go that’s more important than me taking my son to the ER?” “I don’t have time for this!” I screamed in my classroom at the mountain of papers the substitute… Read more“Screaming (Five Tips for NOT Screaming When You Really Feel Like it!)”

God Answers Prayer With a Spelling Lesson

When Plans Crash My cell phone rang in the middle of a team parent’s meeting at Laura’s gymnastics class. Pedro’s voice sounded worse, but I wasn’t sure if it was because of his facial paralysis or because he really was worse. “I’m back in the hospital.” I breathed deeply and… Read more“God Answers Prayer With a Spelling Lesson”

Solutions, Not New Year’s Resolutions

For years I made New Year’s resolutions: lose weight, give up chocolate, start an exercise program, have better health and myriad other impossible proclamations.  While my husband recovered from his stem-cell transplant, I spent all of my spare time in bed—grumpy and depressed and fifty pounds overweight.  All of my… Read more“Solutions, Not New Year’s Resolutions”

How to Help a Caregiver at Christmas

A Caregiver at Christmas Feels Double the Stress Contrary to the song, Christmas is NOT “the most wonderful time of the year” for caregivers. It’s that time of year when all the ‘what ifs’ pile up in their brains as they silently mourn Christmases past and what to do in… Read more“How to Help a Caregiver at Christmas”