Six Tips for Finding Financial Aid for Cancer Patients

“Twenty-seven THOUSAND, six-hundred and six dollars?” my voice inched up the panic scale as I read the number out loud to an empty room and the kitchen table. “For ONE infusion of Rituximab?” I checked the number again, then flipped to the last page of the 25-page hospital bill. “That… Read more“Six Tips for Finding Financial Aid for Cancer Patients”

A Letter to Caregivers

Dear Caregiver Friend: I’m sending you this letter because I used to send letters. I used to do a lot of things… I used to be a great aunt. Well, I’m a great-aunt now, but I used to be a great aunt. I sent post cards and birthday cards and… Read more“A Letter to Caregivers”

Weighty Matters: Four Things I Would Do Differently (#1 is the Hardest)

Now that Pedro was out of immediate danger, I could take a deep breath. It wasn’t a very deep breath, because I was walking up the eleven flights of stairs with a high quality ice-cream bar in my hand. I’ve gotta take the stairs more often, I thought to myself…. Read more“Weighty Matters: Four Things I Would Do Differently (#1 is the Hardest)”

Four Tips for Handling the Long Haul as a Cancer Caregiver

Pastor Carl gently pulled the wagon up over the edge of the sidewalk, trying not to bump the worn-out boy in the facemask who rode in the back. Shortly after Andrew returned from his first hospitalization, Pastor Carl dropped by for a visit and offered to take Andrew for a… Read more“Four Tips for Handling the Long Haul as a Cancer Caregiver”

Definition of a Caregiver: YOU!

      I swallowed the ache in my throat as her salt-and-pepper head bent over his snowy white one. My big, strong and wise daddy gazed up out of one of his little-boy moments, “Am I OK?” he asked. Mom nodded and kissed his cheek, “You’re fine, you can… Read more“Definition of a Caregiver: YOU!”

Submersion or Submission: Which Will You Choose?

In the fifth part of our series on how caregivers seem to experience the same reactions to circumstances that a drowning person experiences, we explore the options a drowning person has–submersion or submission. “From beginning to end of the Instinctive Drowning Response people’s bodies remain upright in the water, with… Read more“Submersion or Submission: Which Will You Choose?”

Signs Someone is Drowning (and it Could be YOU!)

“Throughout the Instinctive Drowning Response, drowning people cannot voluntarily control their arm movements. Physiologically, drowning people who are struggling on the surface of the water cannot stop drowning and perform voluntary movements such as waving for help, moving toward a rescuer, or reaching out for a piece of rescue equipment.”… Read more“Signs Someone is Drowning (and it Could be YOU!)”

Have You Made a Plan for a Catastrophe?

Big City Traveling We looked like something out of a freak show. A plump, flustered lady lugging a lawn chair, blankets, a pillow and a bag standing next to a tall, bald man who looked liked he’d escaped from the set of Schindler’s List. Two excited, fluttering children jabbering about… Read more“Have You Made a Plan for a Catastrophe?”

Three Tips for a Cancer Caregiver

It’s not an elite club. It’s not a desirable club. It comes with a very high membership fee. No one ever requests to join. But once you’ve been inducted into the club of Cancer Caregivers, you might as well participate fully. No matter how busy you are at your full-time… Read more“Three Tips for a Cancer Caregiver”

Seven Signs You May Suffer From *Chemo Brain by Proxy

I stood in the middle of the kitchen, a measuring cup in one hand and a carton of eggs in the other.  What was I doing? Oh, yeah.  Cleaning the bathroom. I looked at the items in my hands and shrugged before setting them down on the open oven door. … Read more“Seven Signs You May Suffer From *Chemo Brain by Proxy”