Because

carolsseriouskidsSoft wrinkled fingers gently stoked the hair back from my aching head, like they did every time my head hurt that badly. “Oh, I love you.” My grandma spoke in a quiet I’m-sorry-you-don’t-feel-well-voice.

“Why?” I asked.

“Just because.”

That answer didn’t satisfy. I thought there should be more to the story, but usually those fingers were so soothing my eyes would close against the desire to hear more, and I would drift off to sleep.

Years later and with three children to love and to nurture, I find myself cataloging their gifts and thinking I have wonderful children. But sometimes when we are discussing something about their lives and they share their surprise at being capable, or looking good, or succeeding and I say, “Of course you did well!” Or, “Of course you won!” Or “Of course you’re beautiful!” and they ask me “why?” all that comes out is, “Because!”

Because you are beautiful, smart, amazingly talented and sweet. Because you’re a hard worker and a deep thinker and your quirky sense of humor gets me every time.

Because you persevere through things other people only think of dealing with in nightmares and because you keep trying no matter how hard it is and because you feel perfect when I hug you and because you still lay across my bed to chat with me.

Because I cannot imagine life without you and your eyes are so clear and direct and sometimes when you get mad you say ridiculous things.

Because you are unique and ornery and loving and have a temper that matches your hair. Because I’ve shared every moment of triumph and sadness and you’ve grown into a stunning person.

Because you do some things that remind me of myself at your age and because you do other things that make me wonder if you’re actually my child.

Because you are capable and confident, shy and uncertain and you expect everyone to deal in honesty and respect.

Because I believe you can do anything you set your mind to and because you don’t know yet exactly who you are.

Because you love and you cry and you laugh with your whole heart. Because you are a piece of me, only so much better.

Oh my children. I love you more deeply than I ever pictured and more than words can ever say.

And just like my Gram, sometimes those feelings overwhelm me and all I can say is, “I love you, just because.”

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  • Your children are blessed to receive such deep unconditional love!

    • Thanks Juliet. I feel blessed by my children! 🙂
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  • I get that… totally. Thanks for sharing your heart… sometimes it is so hard to put into words all that each one means to us.

    Loved the smiles on the faces of your kiddos!
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    • Thanks Richelle, for stopping by!
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  • I love you just because. I so get that. I have two grown boys and often words cannot describe me love for them. I love them just because . . .
    Beautiful post on this prompt word.
    Blessings.
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    • It’s hard to describe the love we feel for our children. Sometimes my middle one declares that there’s too much pain in childbirth and she asks why I went through that 3 times. Just because! 🙂
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  • What a perfect post. I feel the same way about my kiddos…especially the “Because you do some things that remind me of myself at your age and because you do other things that make me wonder if you’re actually my child.” Such a blessing to see yourself in your children and then to see their individuality and know you get to nurture that. Thanks for sharing your love for your kids so beautifully.
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    • Thank you for stopping by Lisa!
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  • Oh how I love this, Carol. I think it takes becoming a parent to understand that “just because” answer. There are so many days my kids drive me crazy, but I love them in spite of it all just because. I felt like I was right in the middle of your story as I read it. Write on!
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    • Driving us crazy, loving us – but I suppose that’s fair because I probably drive them crazy as well! Ha ha!
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  • Such a lovely post! So glad I stopped over! Beautiful thoughts and truths on the word because! We as moms understand “I love you just because.” Blessings!
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    • Thank you Julie!
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  • I agree – your children are so blessed to have a mom who is being so intentional with her words towards them! Love the fun photo too!

    • Thank you for stopping by Larissa – great name, by the way. It’s my oldest’s name! 🙂
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  • Just becuase covers a whole world of love and wonder. What a lovely post. So glad I stopped by from Inspire Me Mondays.

    • I’m glad you stopped by too. Come again!
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  • Oh, how I love this! With a 2 and almost 4 year old at home, we’re in the land of “Why?” on a daily basis, and every once and awhile I allow myself to go deeper into my “Because.” You’ve hit the nail on the head. What a blessing you are!
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    • Thank you for your kind words Kristin!
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