Last Questions

Siblings snuggle on the hospital bed. Last What if it’s the last time I kiss him goodnight? What if they wheel him away and it’s the last time I see him awake? What if this chemo session doesn’t work and it’s the last medication he gets, this medication that makes… Read more“Last Questions”

Last and Last

Last and Last. Same word, two meanings. Someone once said “Dead last is greater than ‘did not finish,’ which trumps ‘did not start.’” How often do I not start something because I am afraid that I’ll come in last–that my efforts won’t be ‘good enough’ (or at least as good… Read more“Last and Last”

Caregiver Burnout: Words that Break Us

Pedro was ‘circling the drain’—his life hung in the balance and no one knew for sure how to stop the infections that waged war on his chemo-weakened body. The doctors had started using drugs they thought might work, and spending long minutes sitting on his bed, staring at him (it’s… Read more“Caregiver Burnout: Words that Break Us”

Submersion or Submission: Which Will You Choose?

In the fifth part of our series on how caregivers seem to experience the same reactions to circumstances that a drowning person experiences, we explore the options a drowning person has–submersion or submission. “From beginning to end of the Instinctive Drowning Response people’s bodies remain upright in the water, with… Read more“Submersion or Submission: Which Will You Choose?”

Signs You Might be Drowning in Plain Sight

Drowning victims and caregivers share more than one might think. In this five-part series we explore the phenomena of “Drowning in Plain Sight.” As you read, whether you’re a caregiver or someone who loves a caregiver, think about the people in your ‘pool’–is anyone drowning? “Except in rare circumstances, drowning… Read more“Signs You Might be Drowning in Plain Sight”

Three Tips for a Cancer Caregiver

It’s not an elite club. It’s not a desirable club. It comes with a very high membership fee. No one ever requests to join. But once you’ve been inducted into the club of Cancer Caregivers, you might as well participate fully. No matter how busy you are at your full-time… Read more“Three Tips for a Cancer Caregiver”

Seven Signs You May Suffer From *Chemo Brain by Proxy

I stood in the middle of the kitchen, a measuring cup in one hand and a carton of eggs in the other.  What was I doing? Oh, yeah.  Cleaning the bathroom. I looked at the items in my hands and shrugged before setting them down on the open oven door. … Read more“Seven Signs You May Suffer From *Chemo Brain by Proxy”

Nuts About Granola

I’m nuts about granola, and I always assumed that it was good for me—until a friend shared her granola recipe with me and I realized how much oil and sugar hid under the guise of ‘healthy.’ I started playing around with granola recipes, and came up with this healthier version.Preheat… Read more“Nuts About Granola”

Monster Cookies-Tasty, Vegan and Gluten-free

Preheat oven to 380˚ Yields 24 monster-sized cookies These monster cookies have a dash of cinnamon and they’re so good no one will know they’re vegan or mind that they’re gluten-free! 3/4 cup boiling water 1 cup flax meal (I find it’s less expensive to buy whole flax seeds and… Read more“Monster Cookies-Tasty, Vegan and Gluten-free”

Creamy Asparagus Soup-Vegan and Gluten-free

About two weeks ago I bought a bunch of asparagus and than never had time to prepare it. I hated wasting it, but it was on the old side of fresh, so I figured it might taste great in a soup. This happens to me a lot—I buy fresh veggies… Read more“Creamy Asparagus Soup-Vegan and Gluten-free”