Why You Should Forget About New Year’s Resolutions

Brainstorm Solutions, Instead

ResolutionKiss Resolutions Goodbye!

For years I made New Year’s resolutions: lose weight, start an exercise program, have better health, give up chocolate, and myriad other impossible proclamations.  While my husband recovered from his stem-cell transplant, I spent all of my spare time in bed. I felt grumpy and depressed and weighed fifty pounds more than I should. All of my resolutions clustered around me, tying me to my perpetual inaction.

And then I learned a secret.  ‘Resolution’ simply means to decide on a course of action—there’s nothing to ensure that I stay on course.  Lofty plans sound great on December 31, but without action they fall by the wayside quicker than couch potatoes running a 5K.

‘Solution,’ on the other hand, means ‘the act of solving a problem’ or ‘the state of being solved.’  Action equals motion.  This year, decide on solutions to problems and ditch the resolutions. Start with a list of things you’d like to accomplish, and then brainstorm ways to make those things happen. Don’t focus on your goal, though. You might end up feeling overwhelmed.

Focus on the little changes that you can make each day that add up to big changes over a long period of time. Those daily choices add up. Give yourself grace during your journey to forming new habits.



Changes Don’t Happen Overnight

Since saying ‘Adios!’ to New Year’s Resolutions, and acting to solve problems I saw in my life, I’ve lost those fifty extra pounds, lowered my cholesterol and learned that chocolate isn’t the enemy. I have more solutions to work out in my life, but I’m not the grumpy, frumpy middle-aged lump I used to be.

You can find out more about learning to really nurture yourself over at my other blog. On my journey, I’ve discovered lots of solutions to adding extra movement into my life and finding healthier ways to deal with stress.

Whether you’re a busy mom or a stressed-out caregiver, remember to give yourself grace for your journey. Change takes time (more than the month of January) in order to remain permanent. If you’d like to find a grace-filled support group, check out Faithful Finish Lines and their two-week FREE Grace Camp (affiliate link).

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Anita currently teaches English to 7th-12th graders. She describes herself as a 'recovering cancer caregiver' who gives thanks daily that her husband has been cancer-free for ten years.

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  • This is great advice — stronger than that, really. These are strategies for the “long obedience” that we’re called to.
    Blessings to you in 2018!

    • Oh, I love that term! ‘Long obedience!’ We’re called to so much more, aren’t we? It’s so easy to get caught up in the instant gratification.

  • Jerri Miller

    Love the idea of solution instead of resolution. I’ll be thinking on that this week! ~ Jerralea

  • Debbie Williams

    Great advice Anita. Thank you for the party. Happy New Year.

  • I love the advice to think “solutions” instead of “resolutions.” It does make a difference! I wasn’t very practical with specific steps last year, and thus I didn’t feel I carried through as well. This year I’m being more specific again. Happy New Year, Anita!

  • Susan

    SO SO SO good.

  • Hey Anita … just love your focus on solutions instead of thoughts that just swim around in my head or get lost on paper somewhere.

    Happy new year to you, to those you love …

  • JeanneTakenaka

    I like your take on Resolutions, Anita. It’s so practical! Though I’ve never been a Resolutions, kind of gal, I haven’t thought as much as I should about the healthy steps I can take to work on some areas of my life. Great post!!

  • Love the practical suggestions you made here, Anita — especially the ones on stress. Taking notes. Time outside and deep breaths later today.

    Happy New Year to ya! 🙂

  • I love the “solution” counter to “resolution,” Anita. So creative. Happy New Year! 🙂

  • Anita, you are always coming up with such wisdom and practical steps to take! Thanks so much for this lovely post! Blessings to you!