Triggers is Not Just for Mothers of Young Ones

Triggers Book


It’s not often that I read a non-fiction book that that has me turning pages as quickly as Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses. In fact, it’s not often that I read books on parenting, since our two girls have entered adulthood.

But Triggers touches a place in my teacher heart and my wifely heart and my soon-to-be-grandmother heart (as well as my mother heart, of course). I have struggled with my temper throughout my life (my parents tell me that my grandmother once despaired of ever seeing me happy), and this book helps even an old codger like me see ways that I can grow and get more authentic in my relationship with God. And the more I immerse myself in his grace, the easier it becomes for me to deal with others.

The authors, Wendy Speake and Amber Lia, divide the book into two sections. The first section has all those triggers that a parent can immediately relate to: whining kids, roughhousing, sibling rivalry, disobedience, etc. As one reads, one starts to feel as if the paramedics have arrived.

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Once the authors perform triage, the reader gets drawn deeper into the root reasons for way he or she may have a tendency to fall apart at the drop of a crumb or hearing “Why, Mommy?” for the eight-hundred-and-seventy-six-thousandth time. The real inner work begins in the second half of the book—it’s akin to visiting the doctor or the counselor or the secret places within our own hearts to examine, confess, and root out the things that make us lash out in frustration.

TriggersThe authors format the book in a user-friendly way—each chapter has anecdotes, biblical advice and prayers. The reader can choose to read the book in one sitting or use it as a daily devotional book. Likewise, a stressed-out busy reader could jump around and read the chapters that shout out to them the loudest.

Don’t think that because you don’t have young kids around (especially boys), that Triggers isn’t for you. It is. It’s for anyone who longs to have better relationships with family and coworkers and especially for anyone who longs to grow closer to God. I’ll be gifting this book to any moms-to-be on my gift list—starting with my own daughter (but don’t tell her, I want it to be a surprise 😉 ).

You can find the physical book at your favorite bookstore on online, or, if you’d like to just read it as a PDF or send it to your eReader, you can order it here (this is an affiliate link).

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Anita currently teaches English to 7th-12th graders. She describes herself as a ‘recovering cancer caregiver’ who gives thanks daily that her husband has been cancer-free for ten years.

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  • Jed

    Thanks for the excellent books suggestion. It sounds like a book I would enjoy. And, as a daddy to four girls, it sounds like it would be helpful too. Thanks for hosting too. Wishing you a blessed week!
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  • Sounds like a great recommendation! Some parenting books are so idealistic that they are discouraging, but it looks as if this one has avoided that pitfall.
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  • I love your analogy! I have read Triggers (as you know) and this is the perfect review. You explain the whole concept so well, and you’re right a lot of this anger business can apply to anyone.
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  • Sounds like I need to read this book!
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  • I am so looking forward reading this book too. I just purchased my copy. Thanks for sharing on Literacy Musing Mondays.

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  • Great review, Anita! I had the pleasure of meeting Wendy at Allume this year and she shared at that time about her upcoming book. I am the mother of boys but am realistic to know that all parents would benefit from this book because even if we are not prone to anger we have multiple triggers that still trip us up.

    I joined your linkup today with a caregiving story because I know your heart and experience with caregiving. Blessings friend!
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  • The title caught me-Triggers! I was just thinking about my triggers this morning, why I react so strongly to some behaviours, and others I let slide away. Understanding ourselves better helps bridge relationships instead of divide. Thank you for this book recommendation!
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  • It sounds like a good book for me in the future. Made a note to self! Thanks 🙂
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  • I’m so glad you linked this. I think I can definitely benefit from reading it! 😀