A Different Kind of Quiet

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Some people thrive on noise, action, conversation, music and the hum of constant conversation.

Not me.

Most of the time I’d rather text or email than talk on the phone. I’d rather tweet than talk. I’d rather read than watch a movie or TV. I don’t often listen to music when I come home from work. I just want to sink into the quiet of the empty house, or walk outside where I only hear the wind’s whisper.

Don’t get me wrong. I enjoy people and family and friends, I just need large doses of quiet to counterbalance all the noise in my life (after all, I teach, and that’s a messy, noisy, cacophonous job if there ever was one).

Yesterday I wrote about my heavenly head slap and the realization that I need to be life hospitable and willing to share my life. Of course, I imagined that God meant I could do it quietly, person to person or in writing. That same afternoon, we received an invitation to go somewhere with someone for the day over the weekend.

I wanted to decline. A road trip would NOT be a quiet thing. I don’t feel like spending hours and hours in the car with people-not-my-family. Because let’s face it, it’s ok to yell out, “I’ve gotta pee!” or roll down the window and say, “Bless you” when you pass gas (new research shows that that fart gas is actually healthy) whilst riding with family. With acquaintances, not so much.

But yesterday morning I wrote about trying to live more hospitably—and God called me on my intention just to make sure I put my money where my fingers are.

So I’m going on a road trip this weekend with people I don’t know very well. Along the way, I pray I’ll find opportunities to vulnerably share what the Holy Spirit impresses me to share (I figure that if God arranged the trip, he’ll arrange the conversations). Maybe I won’t experience the quiet that I hoped for, but I’ll probably experience the quiet satisfaction of acting our of obedience rather than preference.

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What about you?  Are you an introvert or an extrovert? How does your personality help or hinder sharing the gospel?

Anita currently teaches English to 7th-12th graders. She describes herself as a 'recovering cancer caregiver' who gives thanks daily that her husband has been cancer-free for ten years.

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  • By training and nature, I’m actually pretty quiet…unless I’m in a fight, and the battle does get loud.

    And fart gas…that reminds me of an experiment with a colleague, dropped pants, and a Zippo.

    “And I christen thee…Rocket Man!”

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  • I like my quiet too. I’m on the line for introvert extrovert but I for sure need my own quiet time. Hope you have a restful weekend filled with some quiet. I’m in the #7 spot this week.
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  • Anita, I love your take on the word this week. 🙂 There are definitely times when I LOVE, crave quiet. With two very active, chatty boys in the house, quiet is sometimes a stranger. I hope this weekend holds some quiet moments. As God gives you opportunities to share your life, I’m certain He will use you as an encouragement.

    There’s always satisfaction in acting out of obedience rather than preference. 🙂
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    • Thank you, Jeanne :). Amen to finding satisfaction in action out of obedience (naturally, I’m pretty selfish, but it always feels good to what’s asked of me.).
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  • I guess I’m the opposite. When I want to be most productive I need some loud music, this somehow gets me going. 🙂 But I also prefer the written to the spoken word and sometimes I just want to hear nothing at all.
    Cheers for being brave and going on that roadtrip! May you hear lots of spirit input and experience many godly surprises!

  • Praying that during this time He’ll give you a special surprise gift of just the kind of quietness you love!
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  • Anita, I can’t think of many things I dread more than road trips with people I barely know. Actually, I’m not fond of road trips with anyone not close family! I live a noisy life too, much of it cause by me. BUT, I crave that quieter side I find at home. The balance, as you aptly put it. I relate to this post today. Even the hospitality part. Something I was a lot better at in my younger years 🙁 Thanks for your honest words today. (as always)
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  • I hear ya, friend! I am the same way…. very much an introvert and I need my quiet to prepare for the noise. Praying your weekend goes well friend! Looking forward to hearing about it Monday! 🙂 Happy Friday and weekend to you! (FMF #31)
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  • Good for you! Enjoy the ride! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Stopping by from FMF.

  • I can relate to this too. It exhausts me to be around people all day long. I need my “me” time. But I also have realized lately that I have been unproductive in society and kinda isolate myself. Yeah I know I have a 18 month old but that shouldn’t be an excuse. You wrote this very well. Thanks for the reminder. New to these five minute posts. I came late. lol #61

  • You are so funny. We are a lot alike – I think we could take a roadtrip together and get along just fine. Neither one of would talk much. LOL Just the way I like it.
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  • I am very much the same. I wouldn’t want to be a hermit, but I could come pretty close and be pretty happy. 🙂 And I think I am better at a distance – when I have time to think things through and write a response. But I have to remind myself often that God has called me to live in real time with people, and, as you said, He’ll arrange the conversations if I am trusting them to Him. As I think I have mentioned before, we care for my m-i-l in our home and she is under hospice care now, though her situation isn’t urgent. One of my biggest struggles is the number of people who come in for hospice – a bath aide twice a week, a nurse once a week, a chaplain once every week or ten days, a social worker once a month, and a doctor once every three months, not to mention the aide outside of hospice that we hire for a few hours a day so I can run errands and get other things done. And this happened to be the week they ALL came. The social worker was just here, and since there wasn’t much to discuss with my m-i-l’s case, she talked about soft drink options at fast food places, what I was planning for dinner tonight, what plans we had for the weekend, etc. My first instinct is to chafe at the total waste of time, but I am trying to remind myself that God has me in this time and place and season and has a reason for the people who come in, and even if we don’t talk about anything directly spiritual, my demeanor can indicate an openness to engage them (and maybe possibly later have a spiritual opportunity) or a closed-off distance. I chafe at it, but I am praying for patience and openness.
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  • #introvertproblems. Love it.

    I tend to fill my days with busyness because stillness is scary. But I am like you in that said busyness is usually solitary. Talk to someone I don’t know? I’d rather have my eyelashes yanked out.

    I hope this trip is good. Will pray for ypu!

  • You know, Anita, I’m an extrovert, but as I’m getting “more mature,” I find myself with introvert tendencies too. But sometimes God calls us to leave our quiet place, doesn’t He? May the Lord bless you during your car trip this weekend!
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  • Love this glimpse into your personality and character, Anita! Thanks for sharing! And absolutely, if God planned the trip, He will orchestrate the conversation! Praying that you are pleasantly surprised. 😉 Thank you for this thought-provoking post. Hope to hear about your trip when you’re back!
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  • So that’s what they are called.
    Yes, I’ve gotten a heavenly head slap quite often these past few days. lol! I love that term.

    Great chatting with you on twitter the other day. Blessings!

  • This is wonderful, Anita. I’m exactly the same way…pretty introverted. It’s tough when you’re shy, isn’t it? I know it keeps me from meaningful conversation when at Bible study (because I’m too nervous to speak up) or from making friends (when there’s someone new in the neighborhood). I definitely feel more sure of myself when on Twitter. Weird, huh?
    Hope your trip went well.

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