Hide Me From My Children’s Mistakes!

Can anyone hide from God?“You’ll regret it!” I wanted to shout to the pregnant lady I saw in Wal Mart as she happily added sweet little pink baby clothes to her shopping cart.

“They’re more trouble than they’re worth!” I felt like warning the young couple cooing over their newborn in the line in front of me at the grocery store.

Or maybe I just wanted to hide. My sweet daughter had involved herself in a shoplifting scheme the day before, and my broken heart didn’t know what to do with me. I felt indignant about her consequences—getting kicked off the varsity volleyball team a week before the big tournament and serving a one-week suspension from school. After all, she hadn’t been arrested by the police—her friend had.

But deep down, I knew the consequences would teach her a lesson and I struggled to figure out how to show compassion for her yet support the school’s decision. I also wondered if my indignation at the consequences was more about me and less about her. I couldn’t tell if MY pride had received a smack on the behind causing me to burst into tears unexpectedly and want to hide out in our house, or if the consequences really were too harsh for the crime.

Nevertheless, I hid and cried in all my spare time for a good two days. I didn’t want to go to church—where everyone would know about my daughter’s misdeed. I didn’t want to go to work—since I taught at the same school that had suspended her and kicked her off the team.

But God didn’t let me hide alone. He sent friends to call me up and tell me about their youthful indiscretions. Their words of encouragement served as a balm to my battered soul. Life got easier.

I experienced grace in a big way and realized for the first time that even though I lived in a fishbowl (how we jokingly refer to the lives of those who work for a church entity), the people that mattered hadn’t judged my daughter or my husband and me. They understood. They cared. They reached out.

And that’s the kind of Christian I want to be. The one who becomes a fool for Christ—willing to share my life with others so that they won’t feel alone. Ready to reach out to others who want to hide. After all, Christ did the same for us. He took our shame so that we have none. Each hurting person God places in my path presents an opportunity to share the grace and love He… Click To Tweet

Have you ever felt like hiding?

Anita currently teaches English to 7th-12th graders. She describes herself as a ‘recovering cancer caregiver’ who gives thanks daily that her husband has been cancer-free for ten years.

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  • So grateful that we don’t have to face anything alone. Hiding in Him means that He is with us every step of the way. Great post, Anita!
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  • Aw, man. You and your family have had a tough week. I’m so glad that you got to experience grace instead of judgment in the midst of it.
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  • What a deep but wonderful post! So glad that we don’t have to hide but can instead share our hurt and gain love and healing.
    I’ve definitely felt like hiding, and then I realize that hide and pride are linked in my life. I hide to preserve my pride. My little one is misbehaving? Hide! I’m a good parent, so my kids must behave perfectly!
    I don’t have teenagers yet but could relate so well to your post.
    Thanks for sharing!
    Tammy (#8 this week)
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  • *Sigh* yes. What I’ve learned the last few years: I am not in control of my child(rens) actions, so I don’t get to own them. But that’s awful hard when you feel like every one is judging you. So glad you didn’t get that from those close to you! Man, these kids-they’re something!

  • Tara

    So glad that God is always there for us. Living in a fish bowl I so get that. But an thankful you had friends who understood that we all make mistakes and weren’t judgmental.

  • Anita, this is such a great post. You’re a gifted story teller, friend. YES, sometimes I feel like hiding! But God is my Hiding Place, so that’s a good thing.

    But hiding from people? It’s so much easier not to when we have a loving community like you obviously have.
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  • What a week, Anita. I hear you about the hiding. I’d be doing the same. But I’m so grateful that you have safe people in your corner with you, encouraging your spirit, keeping you from feeling alone or shamed or too crazed about what’s happened.

    Praying for your daughter even as we speak … that this would a crossroads experience for her in all the ways that matter.

    Sabbath rest for you, friend. Lots of it …
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  • What a great story of grace! I love your honesty! Don’t we all in our moments of frustration think, “Is this really worth it all” yet like you said… you were surrounding with grace from Him and those who love you! What a beautiful story… and yes, I agree with you… that’s the kind of Christian I want to be as well!

    Thanks for sharing! I love your stories! (Looking to join you for your Monday link-up! 🙂
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  • I’m so sorry that you went through that with your daughter. My kids are still little, but I know my time is coming. That time when I feel ashamed by their bad choices. But, God has slowly been showing me that those choices are theirs! And it has no reflection on me or my parenting. They are sinners in need of Christ, just like I was/am.
    My daughter is 4 and was involved in a fight with another girl — at church. The other girl got into trouble for hitting my daughter. The mother approached me later and apologized for her daughter. I told her it was not at all HER fault. I also told her that I knew my daughter was no angel and probably was not innocent in the exchange of words and hits. I was so glad that God had been speaking to my heart already about this issue of my children making their own decisions — and not always based on the Truth that I teach them on a daily basis. They are learning their way. I just have to keep praying for them and teaching them, so they won’t stray too far.
    Thank you for sharing this today!
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  • Oh my friend… I have been there, too! How we accidentally, inadvertantly take on their reputation as a reflection of ourselves… it’s sneaky how it creeps in but it’s silent until it can be deadly! I am so thankful for God and for Grace and for friends who reach out and remind us who we (really) are!
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  • Having raised three kids – I can relate! And, I think there’s some truth in the fact that our pride suffers perhaps even more than the actual situation warrants! Parenthood has sent me into hiding more times than I care to count!
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  • Anita, it seems like we always have to come to terms with our kids actions and our fears of how they reflect on us as mothers. I’m so, so glad you had friends who could speak truth to you, and give you a broader perspective. I so appreciate your transparency in this post. Thanks for sharing your story.
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  • Anita, I love that you are a “fool for Christ” who encourages me!

  • Those times are so, so hard. Looking back, I can see it was often my pride that hurt the most. I’m glad you’ve been met with grace. It will not only be a balm for you but for your family. I think you’re a brave mama and I thank you for that!
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  • Oh yes, I have been there ! It seems we so often believe our kids actions are a direct reflection on us and how good a parent we are. I thank God for His beautiful Grace for our kids and more so for us !!!
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  • How wonderful is that you have people around you that can help you in such circumstances, He can not be at your side personally but He send someone to bring their support to you
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  • I found myself nodding while I read this. I can only imagine what that must have felt like for you. I don’t have teenagers yet, but a couple days ago my 5 year old cut her own hair in a major and DREADFUL way. It’s not “oh how cute and silly”. It’s hideous and looks trashy. How could I have had scissors that were accessible? How could I have fallen asleep in the afternoon? What kind of mother am I? I was having those same feelings of shame and failure until I had so many other moms tell me their own haircut horror stories and even share pictures. I know that sounds like such a fleeting thing, but it’s going to take a long time to grow back! We have to be there for one another and we can’t do that in hiding.
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  • Love your honesty. I think sometimes I want to hide too, but thank the Lord for the people He sends our way to give us the encouragement we need.

  • Anita, Oh how I understand the pain and sorrow of prodigal children. Thank you for honestly describing the pain and the encouragement we can receive from others.
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  • Anita, I am not on that side of motherhood yet, but I have experienced the pain of my pride being broken, and felt the sting of onlookers. Thank you for being courageous and sharing this private story. He is and He is always enough. He is enough to carry us into His presence and hide us and our children in grace and forgiveness. I love your heart. Thank you for giving me insight into the days ahead with my boys. While I know they will not always make the right choices I pray they will always feel safe to return home. I often wonder I how I will respond in the future. I am learning to trust Him with my children even now at early ages. Praying for you sweet momma!
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    • Parenting isn’t easy, but it’s so much easier when God is with you. I think creating a safe place and strong relationships are the most important thing we can do for our children–forget the sports, the music lessons, all those extra things–making our kids feel needed and wanted is what really matters :).

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