A Letter to My Daughters

#Parenting is not for the faint of heart. http://wp.me/p2UZoK-FM via @blestbutstrestEvery separation, every send-off
takes a little part of my heart away with you.
From the first moment your
chubby legs toddled hesitantly
away from me into your
daddy’s waiting arms, I’ve known that
one day, one day, you’d grow
up and become you own person with,
problems, joys and sorrows and
I would no longer be naturally
connected to you.

Those intervening years filled with the
trauma of your father’s cancer to the
mean girls in middle school and the
self-loathing that you struggled with in
high school have all shaped your
hearts and pecked away at little
pieces of mine. We knit our
hearts back together again over
coffee Fridays and harry
mountaintop misadventures.

Both of you stand poised on the
precipice of adventure and growth and
all that awaits you in that job-holding, insurance
paying grown up world. Know that no
matter how much I may mutter and
question your plans and decisions, I am
proud of you and the way you’ve
overcome your struggles and learned to
face the next one with a stronger heart, a
strengthened faith and always courage.

I can send you off in peace, because I
know that you are in the Father’s hands
and that now you
choose to be
naturally connected to

Anita currently teaches English to 7th-12th graders. She describes herself as a 'recovering cancer caregiver' who gives thanks daily that her husband has been cancer-free for ten years.

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  • Oh wow. I’m not looking forward to that moment with my daughters, but maybe I can send them off with that same grace. Beautiful, beautiful letter.

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  • Anita, what a beautiful post. My guys are still pre-teens, but my heart resonates with the pieces that are chinked away with each step they take toward independence and flying the Takenaka nest. Each step is a leaning on grace, isn’t it? Thanks for sharing this visual.

    Visiting from FMF. 🙂
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  • Ahhh… Now you made me cry. This is so touching, Anita. And you’re mom heart is beautiful. Thank you for sharing your gift. I loved this line: “I can send you off in peace, because I
    know that you are in the Father’s hands”. Yes, peace… Great post!
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  • So precious, Anita. My mom and I had many bumps along the road, but now, as an adult, I count her among my dearest friends. No doubt your daughters feel the same way. My prayer is that you continue to grow closer as the years go by!
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  • What a beautiful letter! It IS hard to send our children off into that “big bad world”; but we can only pray they hold to that which we have taught them and know that God has their backs – just as we do!

    Thank you for sharing your letter with us!
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  • Tara

    So sweet!! Great letter to your daughters.

  • Anita, beautiful words and such a roller coaster. I’m glad they are choosing that connection now again. 🙂 so sweet huh?
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  • How hard it is to let the love come back freely, without strings attached. These are beautiful thoughts, beautifully written. Thanks Anita. #fmfparty
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  • Sweet mommy! I love this. I will always connect myself to you. ❤️
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  • Sweet, sweet, sweet! What a treasure for your girls, Anita. It’s so important for our children to hear how much we love and support them, and how proud we are of the people they have become. Thanks for sharing your heart with us…and them!
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  • This is beautiful! I wrote about this same kind of thing today… sending off our daughter. Yet you captured it so well! It’s so great to watch them become —- even more than daughters, now it’s good friends! 🙂 Thanks for sharing these words with us!
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  • Anita, This is just beautiful. I put myself in the words and then would see glimpses of the story that is all yours. Thank you. As for the mean girls, my daughter is six and already… Lord, help us.
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  • Such sweet tender words from a momma’s heart. I never realized how much the things I went through, said or did effected my mom’s heart until I became a mom myself. God has a special kind of thread tha He knits our hearts together with theirs doesn’t He ?
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  • Definitely five minutes from the heart. Lovely, Anita.
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  • Beautiful, just beautiful, and a post that resonates, I’m sure, with all mothers. We can only do the best we can and trust that our best is good enough. Give them wings, as the saying goes, whilst making sure they remember their roots.

  • Great letter!!! You are a great mother!!! Your daughters love you and the way you guide them, teach them and give them freedom to choose their paths.
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  • I’m in the midst of the chubby legs walking towards me with 3 kids 6 and under. Everyone tells me to treasure these days as they grow up so fast, right? Thanks for sharing this beautiful letter. I loved every word!

  • Oh Anita, this brought tears to my eyes. Such an encouragement to a mother of littles like me that I don’t have worry about the future. Look what the Lord has brought you through, and just like you said you can send them off in peace.
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  • I’m right there with you friend, with my daughter. Beautiful words of encouragement for them, and for me! Thank you for these. You’re a blessing in my life today (and always), Anita!
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  • So hard to send them to those mean girls in middle school – lol
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  • Oh, my heart is really tender right now as I prepare to send my 16 year old to the States for a few months. This resonates deeply with me.
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  • Anita … you stole my heart with that last paragraph. pure and simple. i love my adult daughters, my sweet, dear friends. i can only hope that when i grow up, i’ll be just like them.

    by His grace … maybe.
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  • this is so beautiful, and just along the lines of what i’ve been thinking (and writing!) this week, as we sent my second off for a couple weeks to feed his soul in the forest with a good friend, hiking and backpacking and generally soaking up God through creation and crazy guy-time… the goodbyes are hard, and yet bittersweet, as they represent the investments leading up to them! thank you for sharing – stopping by from five minute friday… on monday. 🙂
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  • Anita,
    What a beautiful, gracious and faith-filled letters to your daughters…you are all blessed 🙂
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